K4D Rising #4

[TrentC]

I think that you have to get to a point where you can be happy without someone because nobody knows what the future holds. However, in saying that, lets be honest.

Let the passive-aggressive wankery begin!

Most people that claim they are happy with themselves and have "detached" and are able to move on, do so because they have created the thought and image of someone else in their life, thereby still putting their happiness in the hope of someone else. They detached from their current relationship/M only because of a happy thought of someone else filling in their needs that they can't get met in their M anymore. I see it way to often on this site by people claiming they have detached and are happy with themselves and it is really a fasad. They have just transferred their happiness to another person or the thought of another person.

I had to read this three times to make sure that I understood what I was looking at.

I'm with stuck: with this one statement, you've insulted not only everyone who has spent months trying to help you in spite of yourself, but everyone here who is trying their damnedest to deal with one of the most difficult, emotionally draining events in their lives.

Just because you can't detach, you've convinced yourself that no one else "really" detaches, either. After all, it's easier to pretend that everyone is as flawed as you than to accept that maybe you can't hack it, that this is too much work for you.

You seem to have all of the answers, Kevin, so I guess our work here is done. Best of luck to you.