thanks for the responses, guys. the holidays suck. I have d6 for thanksgiving, but here is what I am realizing. I don't give a flying f who my ex is with/married to (expect of course how it relates to d), but it KILLS me that there is another "mother" presense now in her life. stupid, I know since I too and remarried, and it is totally hypocritcal. but I think some "splaining" is in order.
I have always made sure ex h has open communication with my husband. always. ex refuses to let me even talk to his new (very young) wife AT ALL!! And she is complying. there have been issues (daughter wasn't invited to their wedding when his entire family was and his new wife showed my daughter the pics and of course didn't act upset with her but was very upset when she came home and told me). I want SOME communication with this girl who will play a role in my daughter's life. there is a sayinng that my lawyer once told me, when you have kids, you are never truly divorced. so f'ing true. this sucks big time.
so I am not jealous of their marriage, couldn't care less, but i AM jealous of this person in a "mother" role with my kid. I can't stand it. She will be with them this weekend and every visiation kills me. my ex is truly an ex to me at this point so much so that I am SO GLAD that he left, but the aftermath (new wife) is the hardest as it means she will be around my daughter at least a few times a month.
I realize I sound irrational, but it's how I am feeling. thanks for reading.
