My first Thanksgiving out of the house my MIL invited me to dinner the day before. I had taken advice from reading on here and already had plans to work at local college's thanksgiving dinner for their international students.
Best thing I could have done. My family asked if was ok to invite StBX, I said yes, and he declined.
We have done variations of the 'other side' of the family get togethers for the various holidays, since I WA... sometimes awkward, sometimes just like old times.
It has helped me to remember it's "just a day" & family memories can be made anyday.. they are not calendar dependent.
This is good advice.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
