He wants to come home....HELP!

[praying_in_GA]

Yes, him going out has always been a topic of stress to me. I know it is stressful for him too. I would be more comfortable with him going out if he were not going to a bar I think. I also think I am willing to work harder than he is, unfortunately. He is confused and lost in finding out who he is so his attention is divided between 'us' and 'him'. This is one of my issues and he has always given into me and not gone out. This time I want to be the bigger person, so to speak, and not hold him back from doing something he might enjoy. He has never stopped me from going out with friends or family (we don't go out to bars, but he wouldn't stop me if I did) and I feel bad that my emotions cause me to take that from him.