additionally MindsEye, whether you like challnges in life (as I do) I surely do not know. You did not sign up for this challenge it picked you. Get strapped in now cuz if you are steadfast about fighting for your M then you are in for one heck of a battle. Just about any way of handling things that you have used in the past will need to be left in the past. The fact that you are on this site in one sense is great because it means that
1) We have another defender of M (makes me happy) .. 2) You will be learning a ton about yourself and growing enormously both consciously and unconsciously 3) You will meet new people and expand on existing friendships because your H is giving you a gift (not weighing you down fully with his burdens and troubles..strange as it may seem, it's true)
Be prepared for things to take a long while before they make sense. The fact that things that you will be instructed to do when you read the book and receive suggestions from fellow DB faithful does not seem to be at all what you believe will work needs to be ignored and you need to act against your natural instincts. Nobody likes to be out of control. The longer that you stay afraid of losing something that you don't really have (your H) the further the control of your own life (that which you do control) will be lost.
Stick with you. Believe in yourself. Your H is being a moron currently. He needs a lesson, you could be the one to teach him (by example). You need to make the most of what is all around you in life. A solid, rational-minded H has "left the building". Grieve on this as you accept this then excel at life. Happiness will come! Do not doubt it or you.
