New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Thanks Michelle. Words of wisdom. To answer your questions:
I haven't thought at all about how life would be if I were D'd.
Maybe I am afraid to think about it, so I repress the thought.
I am a career officer and have about 8 years before retirement if all goes well. If I leave the Army sooner, I will move closer to my W and kids. There is no other way.

I just emailed my W after I read what you said about co-parenting, asking questions. Makes sense. I wasn't pushy or anything. Just asked her how the boys are doing in school etc. I am probably slated to move this summer and go elsewhere, so that's the next hurdle.

My W's silence does bother me, I have to admit. But I am patient. I don't want to be the man I was when I returned from Iraq. I can't go back to that for my own emotional and physical survival. I am confident that I have 99% of my PTSD under control. I save the remaining 1% for the privates who don't salute me

What could I say, how should I approach my W to change the status quo? What are your thoughts? When should I do that?
Lots of questions. Thanks for any input.

Until then, have a peaceful and happy Thanksgiving.

JR