He can have them whenever he wants to, but when he has me ask them, they always say no. My oldest doesn't speak to him and hasn't in almost a month.
He has seen them 4 times for a total of maybe 2 hours.
Hmmm... He really needs to reach out to them and not have you do it for him. I never ask my W to ask my girls if they want to spend time with me. We set it up to where I get them every other week and she gets them every other week.
Is he a good dad to them when he is around? Are they upset with him about the situation? Has he tried to make amends to them?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Hey SD. Sorry to read the situation between the kids and H. I hope he can create a closer situation with them soon. I hate to see kids suffer from adult behaviors. I know the kids have their own opinions on his actions, but he needs to try harder to be their father.
The facebook thing would irritate me, but I know it is petty and would try to get over it! LOL!
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
Yes, he does. I can't imagine why he isn't making an effort. I think he's a coward and afraid to face them. I saw him a few days ago, and he seemed like his mind was going a mile a minute.
I'm already over it. It's the kind of juvenile thing I expected from him. I just wish I had beat him to the punch. lol
He has seen them 4 times for a total of maybe 2 hours.
He's only seen them a total of 2 hours? How does that compare to the amount of time he spent with them prebomb?
I'm lucky, my WAW is still close with both our kids. At first she seemed to be pulling back from S13, but she's gotten back to him. I don't know how I would feel if she was abandoning the kids too.
Yes, the Facebook thing is petty too. It looks like you and I are on the same time span. My W just "divorced" me on facebook, 4 weeks after the bomb. We are still "friends". All of our friends, family, and kids will eventually see it on FB, so I need to expand who I'm telling.
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He was always home at night, but after we ate dinner, he spent his evening watching a movie or playing a game. Even though he was home, he wasn't really interacting with them much. This is the main reason why I don't think they miss him. They aren't really missing anything, if you know what I mean?
I wanted them to sleep over on Saturday, but they said no. Probably because the last time he spoke to them was 11/21. That's crazy to me. I would never go a full day without speaking to my kids, and definitely not days at a time.
Sorry your wife is being petty too, Awoken. We probably should have known these type of people are petty. lol
It's sad they don't miss him much, and that he seems not to notice. I see your point about them not missing anything, still if my kids were not wanting to see mom I would have to assume they were pretty mad at her.
I admire how you are putting your kids first, and it's too bad he's not present for them. I talk to my kids everyday, even when they are not in the mood!
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Let's see...D11 told him she wished he'd die. D10 said in response to his second request for a sleepover...which part of no doesn't he understand the n or the o?
He notices, and when he asked what D10 said, I told him.
Sadly, they really aren't missing out on much. He is.
