Newbie (again)

[dday101798]

And here we go.............

Xw never firmed up any plans for visitation exchanges for tomorrow being I hadn't heard what time I was being let off work today, and she didn't know what her work schedule was for Friday as of the last time we spoke last Friday.

So, last night as it got later and later in the evening, I got more and more aggitated with the situation. Then the phone finally rings, I figure it's S12 doing XW's dirty work and setting up the arrangements since she's too immautre to talk to me. Thus, I let it go to voice mail. Wouldn't you know, I was right. Yet again violating the parenting agreement. Thus, I opt not to return the call and see if she has the decency to call herself.

Of course not. So, in my frustration I sent a nice little text, "well, thanks for not firming up any plans for a holiday".

This morning as I'm driving in, I finally get a reply: "what holiday, what plans, you have the kids, if you need anything you can call me", followed up by a lengthly voice mail about how she has "a hundred thing to do, you didn't answer the call last night, that's you're problem, you have the kids for the holiday, I don't I have nothing to do" {boo-hoo}, and a whole lot of other nasty little things.

Thus, I'm sick and tired of making her life easy. I'm sick and tired of being peaceful and amicable with her, staying late at work unpaid, just so I can pick the kids up from her house on my way home versus her dropping them off. That's it, done. So since I didn't get an option to reply by voice messaging, I sent a response text "We'll just do this by the book from now on and you will drop them off at 10am tomorrow and I will return them at 10am on Friday".

I just now get a text "hi dad, so we're not going with you at 5:30-6:00" presumed to be from S11.

I almost replied and thought better of it. XW had said in her lovely message that she was leaving for work in a half hour and that was an hour ago.

What a beeeeeyatch

I'm done, absolutely done. She's just doing this because A) she has no regard for the rules. B)she obviously must be miserable and thus the apparently the whole world needs to be miserable with her.

I mean seriously, why should I drive all the way home, to drive back to her place and then back home in holiday traffic just because she can't bury the friggen hatchet already? Oh wait, I shouldn't and WON'T. Needless to say, my cousin graciously offered to watch the boys on Friday and even drop them off at XW's beckon call. Again, I'm NOT going to have my cousin sitting around waisting her day away just to appease XW who feels she can do what ever the hell she wants. Eff it!!!!!

And to sit here and boo-hoo me in a message about how crappy it is that I have the kids for the holiday?!?! THAT'S WHAT YOU WANTED!!!!!!!!!

Any ideas or comments about how I handled this are certainly welcome.