Ok, well, I have already screwed it up. Yep, record time I think. I got upset over his night out tonight and after a lengthy conversation last night he said nothing has changed. I am very insecure. I am worried he will find someone out there.

Now, I know that me being bitchy about his time away makes me unattractive and pushes him away, but it was like a speeding train... I just couldn't stop it. I apologized to him after work this morning for doing that. I told him that I was the one who suggested he start going out with his friends and brothers more and now I was the one getting upset. He told me not to apologize, it wasn't doing anything. You know, before he said he would try to work this out I didn't care what he was doing or where he was going. Now that he is willing to be here with me I care and I push him away.

Please tell me this is a small setback and I can recover from it. If I get back to work on my 180 of not showing my insecurities... if I get back to my happy self who doesn't need him.... if I show him that I am happy he is going out and I hope he has a good time can I salvage this?


Me: 33 / H: 36
M: 10y / T: 14y
3 kids
BD: 2/22/14
Live in separation 3/8/14
H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14
H moved out 4/25/14
2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month