Get him in the shower and ritually "clean" him off. If he asks why he needs to take the shower at your home, tell him you are working on a clean start. And don't just sit outside the shower watching...help him. He wants you to help him, to tell him that you both can do this, that you love him and that you are working on forgiveness. No barbed remarks allowed.
Clear your head, clear your soul and lead with your heart.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory