I just want to mention here that my H and I just entered into a 6 mo Controlled Separation, however the first 1-2 mo's we are living under same roof, so we are doing a mini CS, basically, we give each other guide lines. I do not mean to hijack your thread but i would love to hear how your CS is going. I am thinking of using DB guidelines to help me tough out the CS. In our CS also, we both said dating was OK, but H knows I will not be pursuing anyone. I dont really think he is going to either, but then again, i never would have imagined any of this happening (MLC, selling house due to huge financial stress which he feels like a total failure for but likes to blame every single person and wants to distance anyone who helped in this house purchase, meanwhile, it was all his decision!). Re: the dating issue, H found out that out of curiosity, i went on match.com, and had tons of men interested in me. He actually got jealous...which i thought was funny.
And, last night, he mentioned to me he wanted to see a therapist! And, he agreed to read the book "The seven principles for making marriage work" saying it was about time he "man up" i think he said.
last night was our "date night" and also the same night we signed the separation agreement. It was odd, however, b/c we cooked a nice dinner together, had sex, even went to the diner after, and this morning, i woke to him cleaning up the Kit and we cleaned together. He even greeted me w/ a hug. Since we are doing a partial separation, i kept the conversation light, and walked away first saying "have a nice day, see u later".
I could have this kind of thing all the time. If i can get over my worry that he might want out still, or possibly meet a OW since I gave my OK for us to date (we discussed at length what that means to both of us), i might actually like the changes that are going on.
