I think that that is the blessing and the curse around here. When they are ready to come back, who knows if we will still be interested?

Neither of you are the same people, and maybe you are keeping her at arms length because she hurt you, and could again, maybe you really just arent interested anymore!

Really, if the "danger" here is becoming a stronger, healthier person, who has healed to the point where you just happen to no longer be interested in restoring a relationship that has gone through the things that some of ours have, is that really so bad?

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...