So, are you saying that the WAS attempts to justify leaving to themselves even in the face of evidence to the contrary?
As for helping me, I guess it could be "My spouse left me. Therefor I am unlovable ("always" thinking). instead I could turn it to "My spouse left me. Their loss. I'm lovable."
Hard to do when I seek to justify his leaving too! lol. I guess I tend to see all the things I did wrong and say, "of course he will never love me again." And this is CD. The realistic statement would be, "We both made mistakes, not just me. I am lovable no matter what he thinks, even with my mistakes. I am learning from them and am a better person because of that."
Looks good on paper. Will take some time to convince myself. THanks everyone.
