This is exactly what 25 was trying to point out - this is a pattern. You have LOTS of people sticking by you here and your pattern is to deflect when the subject of detachment and boundaries come up. The very subject of many of us feeling ignored by your response (or lack of them) has been brought up frequently. Another pattern, another apology and the cycle repeats.
From my end (and apparently I am not alone in my thinking) it does get frustrating.
I don't know how many people are sticking by me and how many people just get entertainment out of this. I have a select few that stick by me and those are the ones that post the truly helpful advice. The rest probably read for what not to do or for something to occupy their time with. I have heard to many people say that have to see what is going to happen next.
That is not a very good feeling. I agree my situation has been nothing short of "What the heck is going on now?", But for once I would like to be able to say what is going on now is positive movement and growth and the start of turning things back around for me and my family.
I am not deflecting at all from when boundaries come up. I understand the point of boundaries. How could I not? It has been so drilled into my head that I can't help but understand the point of them now. Understanding it and executing it properly are 2 different things. I don't execute as well what I understand.
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...