G'Man..

This is a sticky time for all in-laws and stepchildren, even those of a beautifully blended family. Give it a year for everything to settle.

It's not rejection, it's just the ripple effect of the disruption of divorce. Last year the kids and I had Thanksgiving dinner together, just the four of us. I was a wreck. Normally we'd be with the former spouse's family. I was worried about being shunned, my kids forgotten.

This year we're going to be up there to celebrate. My former spouse choses not to be there.

You are all heart, G'Man. Give them space. This is a tough time for them, too. Let them know you care that your door is open at any time, then drop it. John210 lets his stepdaughters initiate time together.

There's enough drama going on with two divorces going on in your family. Focus on those who turn to you. And be calm in you. Meditate. Be centered. Hush that monkey brain.

And do me a favor. Next time you light up, whack your head with as shovel for me.

*hugs*

Stop trying to force the family you had. Recognize the new boundaries and set some for yourself. Your son needs a calm place, someone to LISTEN.

Read up on emotional triangles and avoid them. Case in point was the TV your divorcing wife offered to you which you thought she'd offer to your son. When it didn't happen you felt betrayed. Focus instead that she and her son came to see her stepson in the play, which is far more important than a TV.

This is a really rough time. It IS the time to have a 'divorcing spouse free day' where you don't think about her, don't communicate.. just give yourself a day off. I used to do that and found it wonderful.