DB C first said I should let him announce it to the whole family and suffer consequences even if Thanksgiving would play out like a Jerry Springer reality TV type episode. She said I need to stop "saving" him. She called me back that night and said she had rethought her recommendation and not to have him announce it. after meeting with him she knows that he does make decisions slowly and process slowly and it has only been 2 months since he moved out. He is so out of touch with feelings and consequences. She thinks he will need more time to make a decision and announcing it might push him to the OW. Remember he is out of the house and his decision is about me or OW, not about choosing marriage or OW as he has already stepped away from M. C reiterated that he is a moral man and this is tearing him up WHEN he thinks about it but he is pretty good at not thinking about anything negative. He is coming over for dinner tommorrow and then we will go pick up our daughter at airport. I need to resist the temptation to talk about R and just be happy and breezy. I need to be hit with 2 x 4 to remember correct DB techniques. C also told me I made mistake asking him again if he was still undecided--somehow I cant stop myself from trying to get a read on where he is and if he is just lying again and again. His ring has been off since he moved out. Should I take mine off?
