If she asks you why, just say "I have some decisions I need to make."
I hope you paid close attention to this part. Your W sees you as being "safe" and doesn't worry over you leaving her. The thought that you may actually take a few days to consider if you want to allow her to stay with you....might be good for her.
She is not in love with this other guy but she is over-whelmed with chemicals in her brain that make her feel good and makes her think she's found her "true love". Not so! But now she's missing her "fix" and that is why she is singing the blues. She's hooked and wanting more. The excuse to have "closure" is simply a way to make plans for how they can be more sneaky with their A. It won't be a good-bye if they have their way. Set your boundarieds (Puppy & Coach and some of the others are great at helping with the wording in these things) and don't be afraid of it. It would be wise to come here to run any issues or thoughts by the board before you make any big steps. B/c most people here have already been through what you are facing......so it helps keep a clear head and on the right path.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
