Interesting evening. D13's choir sang at an interfaith Thanksgiving service, which in itself was fascinating. But what I'm referring to is that exH was there to hear her sing. He was squirming--it was my turf, I was sitting with friends whose kids are also in the choir. And he sat down several rows back--directly in front of my spiritual director! She's an older Franciscan nun, very wise and nurturing (in a very real way, not a dusty and pious one!). She's heard my whole story, for the past 7 years, actually. But never met the xH. At the end of the service she came up to say hello to D13 an exH was there, but beat a very hasty retreat before I could introduce him. She got the drift of the situation and her mouth dropped open--"he was sitting right in front of me! If I'd known that was who it was I would've punched him!"
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012