WAW on suicide watch, what now???

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Update to my sitch with wife in Hospital for evaluation for suicide notes left with friends. She's at a facility out of town, in her home town with her sister. SIL texted tonight to see if W could speak with S9, of course I made that happen, I stood in the room while he spoke and could hear my W's voice and she seemed to sound good. Tried to get D13 who knows everything and hates her Mom for the lies and breaking up the family. W lied to D13 multiple times about A's. I realize and want my D13 to reconcile with W, I need her help raising the kids no matter what happens, I have been doing it all alone since mid Sept.
Stress got to me tonight, and on the way home from work had to call my Mom for shoulder to cry on, but felt better after.

During texts with SIL before W's conversation with S9 I told her to tell W, I hope she is feeling better, that I respect her wishes, i still do not want a divorce, and I still care about her. I did not say anything about love or missing her, I don't know if SIL told her or not, SIL hates me for being honest w/ D13. SIL thinks D13 should not know anything. I tried to get D13 to at least say hi to her Mom and not say anything else just let Mom talk, D13 would not have any of it. SIL spoke to me briefly after conversation w/ S9. I told her that I am trying to work on D13 to reconcile w/ W. SIL still very angry w/ me but we kept it civil, told her that I did not want to be at odds with her but probably talked to much about sitch with her. I know I need to not talk to her at all, guess that was a backslide.

On great terms with MIL, she called me today and filled me in on what she knew about W. It was limited b/c W will not talk to her much, W knows that she is talking to me and MIL told her early on that she was messing up. SIL and W's aunt look down or even hate MIL for talking to me. MIL defends herself by saying that having a R w/ me is how she will have a R with the kids, she is correct IMHO. MIL law is coming to stay w/ me and kids week before Christmas. S9 still sheilded but is well aware of tension and that Mom is in hospital. Thanks to W's aunt calling counselor at S's school and telling C about W's hospital stay. C thought that S knew and talked openly w/ son about it. I am very mad but did not say anything to SIL tonight, even though SIL is openly mad w/ me b/c I told D13. Guess that makes us even, I definitely took the high road on that one.

MIL did know that W is scared of me and does not want me know when she is returning to town, but wants to see S9 when she returns??? MIL law also let me know that W is in group session w/ addicts, I think this confirms my fear that she is a sex addict or addicted to men giving her attention, same thing. That is hard for me but I do not know for sure and she has only been out of the house since Aug 25 and the distance did not start until end of Sept. She met OM first week of Oct. MIL also said that W admited lying to her Christian C here, also that the doctors and C at hospital got her to write down on her plan for recovery "NO MEN" to find a hobby and to not go out any more. SIL and W's aunt called her co-workers to ask that they not ask her to go out anymore. Don't know if W will stick with it but I can't worry about only focus on me, kids and GAL. I figure if I can get D13 to reconcile with W that our contact will increase and hopefully she will start to notice changes in me. MIL also said W stated she wants D. MIL told her that she never told me. W always said, "if I had to make a decision today that it would be over, but is putting in God's hands". Luckily we live in state where you can not file for D until you have been separated 1 year. 9 months left.

Going to stick with not initiating any contact until W contacts me which will be to see S9. Also made a list of things to do to GAL.