Young couple in need of help

[sumguy27]

So it has been a very long time since I have posted. It was just the same crap all over again. After I took that bait before halloween I just kept on taking more bait. Getting mad, frustrated and sad, I kind of told myself enough of being the victim and plan B.

I have read and read tons and tons on the subject. Only I can make myself happy. We always fought and I always pushed her buttons on why she just won't do the divorce.

I hate hate finding out crap about what she has been doing and who else lives she is ruining. Oh yeah my best friend who rented the place to her. She brought these losers over all the time and BAME my best friends girlfriend of 12 years cheats on him too. Way to go wife. Yes its not my wifes fault but I felt like she influenced her friend my friends girl friend to do what she did. So she is moving out by the first of Dec.

Wow all of that happened since I last posted.

A couple of positive notes. I started going out again. I didn't care anymore of being the victim staying at home all the time worried if I make a wrong move she won't ever come back. So I wen't with friends meet new friends. Meet this other girl shes nice and is a divorcey and has been through what I went through. Just friends which is total cool. I'm not ready for a relationship with anyone.

Some recent event's. My son's brithday party was on the 14th. We had agreed upon celeberating it together at chuck E Cheese. Everything went ok untill he came to me and said he wanted to come home with me. I said no its ok its mommy's week with you and I will see you tomorrow. She throws a fit that I'm not being fair with him, and she can pick him back up after only a couple of hours. I've heard that one before and just kept saying no. Her raising her voice at me, I then just spit back "this is joint custody, this what you want! Not me ok." She then yells just drop it. Wow yeah I know. The following sunday same thing again text fight, calling each other names, yadda yadda.

That was when I said I had it. No contact. It was her brithday on the 20th and I didn't even wish her a happy brithday. I felt like she did not deserve it from me. Didn't talk with her till she picked up the kids sunday. She tried small talk but when the kids got in the car I just walked away got in my car and left.

Monday (yesterday) she text's me if we were going to do my lilo girls party together or seperate. I felt like my son's pary was a joke. Like she was there but not there for him or the family. So I waited till later on the day to respond to her and said I'm throwing her a party and if you feel the need to do one yourself then do it.

W:"That's all I needed to know...when are you doing yours then? And why the hell are you being a dick head wtf did I do to you?

M:5th @ 6

W: fine with me

See I get it now. It really took me a long time. There was 2 baits there and I caught it. I didn't react to both those responses. So I'm just not going to fall for them anymore keep my distance go and have fun meet new people and enjoy of what I have now. If she comes back she comes back. But I noticed she has been trying to get me to fight with her, so its a reminder of why she doesn't want to come back.

I do not want to be plan B. So I'd figure I have to really act or use actions that I'm not going to be waiting anymore. The more I waited the more she kept doing what she was doing and I kept pushing her every week. The less contact I have the more she contacts me.