I can think of 3 examples where this has happened in our M so far, and each of them was an opportunity for her to unleash a surprise accusation on me ("You are a terrible husband because you...") or make a renewed demand that I do something I had already refused to do ("I need YOU to move out of the house").
Fool me once shame on you... Fool me twice shame on me.....
If you kept hitting your head against the wall and telling me how much it hurt and asked how you could stop the pain from happening again, I would tell you to stop hitting your head against the wall. (simple answer, BUT very effective in stopping the pain) If you continued to do it and asked for a different result and for me to give you a deeper meaning and more substance to the answer and that maybe there was more to it than stopping then I would tell you that you are getting what you deserve from that point on...
I recommend you don't go. You are asking for permisssion to hit your head against the wall and hoping that there will be a different result. Why would you allow yourself the risk to be beat up again after you already told us what always happens?
