Not sure what to do

[TrentC]

This is my problem, she will see how excited and proud he looked and think that us being seperated is best for our son.

Kids don't really bounce back from divorce. They would rather have their parents together, except in cases of abuse or domestic violence. But that's using logic and facts in an emotional debate. She doesn't feel like she wants to be married to you; you can't make her think her way out of that.

And again, we're back to "you cannot control her thoughts or feelings about the relationship". She will think whatever she wants to think about the situation.

I mean, really -- if your son being happy when he spends time with you means that she is more likely to think that divorce is a good idea, then the converse proposition should be true; in order for her to think that divorce is a bad idea, you son must be unhappy when he spends time with you. Does that sound like a reasonable proposition?