First time poster feeling a bit lost

[Ready2Change]

SANDI is wise and gave you great advise. Read her post again.

This is very important

Listen carefully here....in the past her problems were your problems b/c you were her H and that's just how it is in a MR. However, at this point you allow her problems to be hers and not your....okay? That's very important, and you will come to understand why more and more as we go along.