Well not a whole lot new. We continue you to be friends. Our high school football team is going to the state championship so her, S12, and I are driving 3 hours on Friday to see them play.
Oh yeah I went over there yesterday and she had our wedding and honeymoon pictures out.
Positive sign D. Keep your chin up! No expectations...Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving and State championship game. Thanks for your help this year!
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
I've had a rough couple of days. Wednesday I decided to ask my wife if she would be OK with joining them for Thanksgiving. She said OK. I went to the store and got 2 text messages from her. One was saying that I was playing mind games with her and the other was saying she didn't want me there on Thursday.
I called her. She started ranting and saying she wasn't going to the game with me on Friday blah blah blah. I finally said "You know you keep saying that I'm you're best friend but you don't treat me like it and I deserve better than that. Maybe we shouldn't even be friends." Her response? "Oh, let's go to the game on Friday and go from there."
She told S12 that she was only pretending for the past 13 years and she was never coming back. That her and I are friends and that's all we'll ever be. She also told him that I always text her stupid stuff at night and I'm always making excuses to go over there.
I usually only text her if it's in response to her contacting me and she was the one to text me asking to bring this and that to her place. She keeps saying that she feels like she did in February. That's when she left.
D, You'll probably read this after the game today. I hope it all goes/went well.
Sounds like the confusion of MLC is still heavy with your wife. Obviously she's the one playing games. It never feels good to be accused of something you didn't do! Hang in there and let it all roll of your back as best you can! Remember its the "script" and don't take it at all personally.
-KJ
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
Trip for the most part went well. We did get into an argument when one of her family members said they missed me being there for Thanksgiving. She flipped out and I told her that if she didn;t have that to be angry about, it would be something else and she said that's how it would always be. She knew I was pissed and then was sweet and joking with me the rest of the game.
On the ride home, she made some comment to her sister that I finally came out of my shell in February. This pissed me off but I think this shows she's noticed my changes.
I've decided I'm really going to back off and distance myself for now. I'm getting sucked into the drama.
Sounds like it well for as long a trip/day together as you had. Your plan sounds positive for you.
Have a great weekend!
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
I feel liberated that I'm not hanging on her every word. I guess it is bothering her that I've backed away. I haven't talked to or seen her since Friday. When I dropped the kids off yesterday I didn't go inside and then she sent me a meaningless text shortly after which I chose not to respond to.
I received a text from her this morning "I want to apologize for the way I acted on Friday. It was out of line and I'm sorry I made you feel like that. I wasn't being a good friend, Will you forgive me?" This is one of the first times in a long time she's actually taken responsibility. I did tell her that I did forgive her.
