Great stuff.

I have been fortunate and now 7months is she is starting with personal counseling and on occasions realizing it is not all my fault. yay.

Still feels like she needs her time and space to figure out who she is. In all honesty I agree with her. I wish we could have gone through this together but she could not do that. It would have invalidated everything to know she had someone to catch her if she falls. I think deep down she wants to fall. Just to see what it is like and to see who she is and how she deals with it.

I have been following the advice that you posted for the most part smile

I read a story somewhere... if you have read it and know the location feel free to correct me. What I remember from it goes like this.

Ancient hunters would chase wild animals and the animals would run. Then one day probably out of sheer exhaustion and defeat the hunters collapsed tired in the field. After laying there for hours the noticed the game was all around them and no longer afraid of them. Still the hunters had done enough chasing to know this was a lost cause. So they packed up and headed back to camp. This is where the breakthrough happened. They noticed the game seemed to follow them... all the way back to camp where it became easy to capture the game of their choice.

That is sort of my stategy. Go home and see what follows. I am never going to catch the game on my own.


Me 33
WOW 31
Married 12 years
4 YOD
1 YOD(adoption process)
Bomb & moved out 4/01/09
Divorced 12/17/09