feel like giving up - talk to me!

[Gnosis]

my H is immature and refuses to address our issues.

Can you give me an example. Also tell me what kind of issues.

He'd rather not talk about anything and tries to avoid if possible.

When do you approach him? i.e. As he just gets home? When he's watching the news?

I really sometimes think he is a freak.

Possibly.

Do other H's act this way?

Probably.

I don't yell or push but rather come at him in a non threatening or pushy way like - I have some things that are really bothering me can we talk?

Uh oh... the most fearful words a man can ever hear, "Can we talk"... interpreted as: "Houston, we have a problem. Major systems failure alert!!!"

He immediately says, I don't wanna fight.

See what I mean above.

He's always been like this. He is acting like a jerk by giving me the silent treatment (immature and urks me) whistling around the house when he knows I am upset.

This is called Passive-Aggressive behavior. Look it up, it will give you a bit of insight.

His behavior (telling him I don't like how you are acting) he has been drinking too much and I have called him on that.

It depends on how you call him out on it.

I guess he just doesn't want to be told what to do.

Show me a man who does.

I should just let him self destruct. I want to give up. I've tried so hard to be patient and mature about this. I've read DB but how do you fix things when your spouse won't talk about it?

I can sympathize with you. We're not the easiest beings to get along with.

I'll try to help you LL. I can only call things as I see them. Other men will chip in too. Like I was saying in the other thread... communication is the problem. Let's see if we can get you speaking Martian OK?

And you're going to have to give us more details.