Newly Separated and Heartbroken

[ALJ]

I have been thinking about my sitch and I realize that I still struggle with some things. Setting boundaries is one of those things. Just figuring out what kind of boundaries to set? H and I have been separated for almost 7 months. We don't live together. I have been trying to detach from him. I don't pursue him and he does not pursue me. When we do call each other it is for the kids and him to talk to each other. Most text messages between us pertain to the kids and financial situations.

H comes every 6 weeks or so to visit the kids. (He lives in GA now.) We don't sleep together when he does visit. (He sleeps in my room on the floor.) He does not initiate any physical touch with me.(we will hug and give each other a peck on the lips when he first arrives in town and before he leaves to go back home.) When H is here visiting, he does not use his key nor has he offered to give it back to me. The last time he was visiting, he did act more friendlier toward me and like his old self but I am not reading into that.

Basically, I guess H meant what he said when he voiced his not loving me anymore and us not being emotionally connected. The only cake eating that he used to do was asking me to pay his cell phone bill using our joint account (his money still is deposited in to that account) I don't make financial arrangements for him anymore and his bills go to his house now.

I do believe that he is in some sort of EA/PA. I have read plenty of posts on here not to be naive about the WAS and what their intentions are when they choose to walk away from their families. I also got a chance to view his facebook through someone who is one of his friends(h and I are not facebook friends) and from what I saw, H is soliciting women for dates using what I think is a dating application on his home page.

I am wondering if I should try to find out if there is another women just so I could have proof in case I need it. My h uses my computer when he is visiting and I saw in my history that he looks at his e-mail and goes to facebook alot.(he also has internet access on his phone so I dont know why he uses my computer.) I have seen posts about using keyloggers to get information but I'm just wondering how discreet they are and do you have to be a computer whiz to install them? I would appreciate any help regarding this matter. Would this be the right thing to do?