Detaching gets thrown off with confusion and shock. Keep in mind, W was kissing me only a little over a week ago again. I know I can't control the outcome, but feelings are still there.
Here's something I posted on Gardener's thread yesterday:
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Gardener,
I'm glad you brought this up. Present company (including Trent) excluded, I think this points out the fundamental misunderstanding a lot of folks here have with detachment. They incorrectly think detachment means indifference towards their spouse or a state of no emotions. And that's NOT detachment.
Detachment means you have gone to the worst case scenario in your mind, lived it, embraced it, smelled it and realized that you WILL be ok.
Detachment has very little to do with the state of one's emotions. I believe it is more a mental toughness from facing the cold, hard facts and never, ever giving up. Sound familiar? If not, look up the Stockdale paradox.
