WAS seeing reality?

[Gnosis]

I'll be honest V1 I started reading your thread and then got torn away. Haven't forgotten about you, but want to be sure to point you in the right direction.

So far you're doing some stuff right (upgrading your looks etc). Pointed out to her that after D you will not be friends. Don't read much into the "right now." You never know what they are thinking and it drives you nuts to try and figure it out.

How often do the two of you talk?
How? (In person, phone, email)
What do you talk about?

- Start over the phone by being interested in how work is going. i.e. After the "business" talk, ask, "So how is work?" And let her rip. (OM is comforting to talk to...)

- Let it progress to her dreams .. i.e. how far is the next promo... and let her rip.

Keep it light and start connecting. Remember your boundaries and offer no support, advice or nothing. Don't tell her you'll be there for her... just listen. Validate where you can.

Back in June is five months ago and the affair was full steam ahead. Now the OM is out of the picture there is a void to be filled. Take it slow. Test the waters and see her reaction.

Give us some feedback hear on how things go.