Our finances are so intertwined, it’ll be difficult to sort everything out. Traditionally, I bring home most of the $, she balances the books. That’s what married people do when there is trust. I realize that that is gone, and I have a lot of research and re organizational work to do. She's not my captive, and I have absolutely no control over her, or her phone or anything else she does. This I realize. I can only motivate her to do the right thing through my own behavior modifications. We will split the bills. It may or may not reconcile our marriage, but I think I'll still be stronger and more self confident in the long run. I'm already starting to feel a bit more empowered with the inspiration I gained today from you guys. I really appreciate it. I really had to overcome the initial wimpy (poor me) syndrome. I never thought she was capable of such deception. The shell shock is starting to subside, and reality is upon me. It is time for action. I just need step by step guidance for the right action. I’m leaving for Florida next week to drive my W’s 80 year old father to his winter home. I’ll be gone for five days and plan on fishing, and relaxing. I am considering telling the W not to call me while I’m gone. So we can both take a break. We have never been seperated this long before. Your thoughts?
Oblivious Me / W 47 EA 07/09 to ? PA ? M 13 Years
marriage is the most interesting event of one's life, the foundation of happiness or misery. GEORGE WASHINGTON, May 23, 1785
