To start with, no OM belongins in my house hold. No secrets. When she brings up other man, should I listen for intell? or simply tell her that I'm not intersested in OM problems and go throw a football the kids.
State the OM's belongings as suggested by a couple of the posters above. Don't change a word of it.
As for listening about OM:
- NO, you don't "listen for intel," because anything she tells you will be "spin" at best, and a LIE at worst;
- NO, because it's disrespectful and hammers YOUR self-esteem, and even saps your masculinity;
- but don't phrase it as you did ("I'm not interested in OM's problems"), instead say "Please do not discuss your feelings about your boyfriend with me. It's incredibly disrespectful, and I have decided that I will no longer listen to it."
Oh, and DO pause and stare at her, for emphasis, before turning on your heel to go throw a football with the kids (which is a NICE TOUCH, that!)
