I personally dont think those feelings ever go away augtan, you can detach and put it at the back of your mind, but it keeps erupting, I have been at this since june 2005 and still cannot believe my ex would choose such a distateful, money laundering, crook of a woman over me, but he made that choice honey and he even told me she was better than me, wot to cheat with men, split families up, spend spend spend all his money and get him into deep debt, no way do I think she is better than me, It is a hard one to get over and I personally dont think I for one will ever get over what kind of person he took off with, and may I say married, within a year of leaving us.