In the meantime know that no woman is unmoved by the loving interaction of a man with HER/HIS children...be the best dad you can be.
I think this is good advice and I've seen you post it many times on this board, and I believe it too...although in some instances, such as mine, I don't think the woman is 'moved' by anything that her husband does...even being loving and compassionate to their children.
Antlers...I'm sorry about your sitch. You know I am. But I stand by my words. I say them b/c they are so true. Of the women I know who are divorced, (judging by my recent class reunion, that's a LOT) the ones who stayed M longer than they thought they should, ALL said they stayed b/c "he was such a good father" and the ones who reconciled or tried to, ALL said "He was a good father/the kids love him so much/they're so close"...etc. And the ones who ended up divorced have better visitation and happier kids, b/c the fathers were good men who put their children first. I also have seen at least one woman end her 2nd m (to the OM) b/c he was NOT good with the kids...who knows? I think a reconciliation with her 1st h may happen in that case.
And of the couples who are still married, ALL the wives mentioned how their h's are "good fathers". So heck yes, I think it matters a lot to mothers. Enough to reverse a MLC or whatever your w is doing? Evidently not...or not yet....
And for that, I am truly sorry. You know, it doesn't mean she's not moved though...just means something else is in her priority sights right now. And believe me, when h was in his "whatever the hell it was" (aka MLC but I hate that term sometimes) I cannot tell you what was in his sights for I could not ever relate to it, and he was NOT a good father but he had been very involved before that. So in time, seems he really missed it all. And his being a good father before, did make a big difference in our reconciliation. I know if I had NO memories of him being involved as a good dad, I might not have cared as much about saving things...
Sorry for the hijack. Good luck Antlers, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
