I just noticed you changed the subject of my thread. Probably fitting.
Kevin
Somehow the subject matter was blank and would not let me post without a topic. And I actually thought Detachment was what we were discussing, or trying to. So though it was accidental, now it seems oddly appropriate.
So, do you want to be here in 5 years, (or 15) doing the same old swinging from sadness/to anger/to superficial-temporary detachment/to a backslide/to a long scriptural post/& then START ALL OVER crazy cyclical routine? God, I hope not. But I fear you will remain here, b/c...well, why wouldn't you?
Don't answer. Instead for now, why not re-read the old posts so many people have sent you that struck you as on point? THINK LONG AND HARD ABOUT THEM...those underlying issues that re-surface so often...
K4, how long before you fix whatever prevented you from being happy in the first place? You've spent so much of your 35 years in an unhappy mode.
No one "makes us happy"...if others were truly responsible for how we feel and live, then your w could say "K did not "MAKE ME HAPPY" so I HAD TO LEAVE --no choice--b/c only OM can MAKE ME HAPPY"...
You get angry at the choices she has made...Yet you actually said you "can't be happy without her", but Free will goes both ways Kevin.You both are in charge of your choices & always have been. You choose to be stuck, whether by default--NOT choosing, or by second guessing yourself, or reversing course, or being paralyzed by fear of making the wrong move. So stop that.
Plus, to be fair to others who post for answers/guidance, perhaps you should take a step back and re-read where you were and whether you thought you'd still be here way back when. Read what we said 6, 9 and 11 months ago and what you said...(Maybe others will benefit by doing the same thing here or on their own threads. It's a good check now and then). So see how you feel after that. You might be moved to cry or yell or scream -but then maybe, just maybe you might....change and DETACH!! j-
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