When you talk about finances, you tell her how it is going to be going forward. If she has income, that's hers. But yours is off limits. Tell her what you will pay for re: providing for the household. You should not pay for her cell phone or her 'nice to have' things. She will need to learn to take care of herself. That's what Big Girls do.
Tell her that she will remove those souveniers from your home now. If she will not, you will do it for her - box them up, put them on the outside of the door, not to be brought in your house again. You don't allow that kind of disrespect. Moreover, let her know that all contact must stop. If it doesn't, you'll pack her things and put them on the outside of the door. She can have him, but she cannot have you, too. Then you hold yourself to it.
Do not contact OM or his wife. You know everything you need to know. You are above their mess. They have been poison for your family.
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