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[Lucky11too]

... or just deal with the fact that I will never have the full love of my husband.

I wouldn't even make that an option for yourself! You deserve the full love of your H - that was his commitment to you when he married u and is what you are giving him. But saying that, it might still be a bit of a journey to get to that point. It's hard to say what the future holds, but the idea is that as he continues to draw closer to you (which he is doing), he will draw away from OW. But if that's not happening, then you will need to make an ultimatum. I don't know when the best time to do that is. Maybe just try to get thru the week and get thru S's tubes. You will need H's support to get thru that. Maybe with these interactions this week, you will have more clarity - either that you are done, that you want to try an ultimatum (but be prepared to follow thru with it), or that you want to try DBing a little longer b/c maybe this is true change & he just needs a little longer. It's hard to say & I don't want you to get hurt if the opposite is still true. It's a tough decision & in someways a gamble. Just try to stay strong and optimistic this week (even in front of H when you don't feel like it) as you decide what what want to do. I struggle with the idea of S being my only reason for wanting to make it work too, which I think is partially true, but in some ways, that is a good enough reason, but only if H can show me the love and respect I deserve. I know I could do without him, but it is definitely better for S if we are a family, but it still has to be a relationship with boundaries ad love.

You have had a really tough few days. It's good that H has been there for you, but I understand how hard it is to put your trust in him and his changes again. I hope things start looking up again for you & that S feels better in time. Have a good day!