I have to agree. It is one thing to forgive an affair and commit to work on the marriage, but another thing to tolerate such disrespectful actions.

I know how hard it is in the early stages to set the boundaries, but trust me when I tell you the sooner you do it, the easier it will get. I am not saying that you have to become a total hard ass, but you do deserve respect no matter what you are going through. Trust me when I tell you the involvement "for the sake of the kids" is an excuse. Having an absentee parent come in and out of the house wheneer is not teaching the kids that both parents love each other, but it is teaching them what you deem to be acceptable behavior. In the future, they will either become it or have it done to them. I know that is not what you want.

LOL..."I want my Daddy..." that is a typical passive aggressive behavior from kids when they are not getting their way. My D13 STILL does it. And I say? Tough you're dealing with me right now. So does XH when she says "I want my Mommy..." although it took me a while to get him to understand she is only saying it to piss him off. Don't let it.

Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..