Feeling more positive today than yesterday. Thanks for the support!
Just a funny aside... I set a boundary quite some time ago that I don't do H's laundry, or any of the nice "wifely" things I used to do for him. Made it clear that until he is ready to commit and treat me with the love and respect a wife deserves, he will not get the priviledges of having a wife. At the time, H was quite surprised, but told me he "admired" my stand on that.
Well... his laundry has been piling, and piling, and piling... He has put some of his laundry in with mine, and I carefully remove it and put it in his pile. So, this morning, in frustration when he can find almost nothing to wear... he starts to say something, then says, rather helplessly "do you think you could just remind me tonight how to do the laundry myself?" hehehe... had to stop myself not to giggle out loud. "Oh sure, I'll give you instructions" I said.
Anyway, it's a new day. Feeling stronger again. Focusing again on reminding myself I am a FABULOUS and ATTRACTIVE woman! And, now I've added STRONG to my mantra.
He has put some of his laundry in with mine, and I carefully remove it and put it in his pile. 
So, this morning, in frustration when he can find almost nothing to wear... he starts to say something, then says, rather helplessly "do you think you could just remind me tonight how to do the laundry myself?" hehehe... had to stop myself not to giggle out loud. "Oh sure, I'll give you instructions" I said.
