Remember a long time ago when I suggested that W might be a gifts person (from 5LL)?
"She said “what’s this?” I said “It’s for you” she said “your kidding you did not have to get me this” I said “I don’t do anything I don’t want to do” and I left the room. She followed me down the hall and when I stopped and turned around she was wiping her eye. Now I don’t know if she was starting to tear up of just has something in it but it did seem like a tear. She then came up to me and gave me a kiss. That’s right SHE gave me a kiss. This is the first one she initiated in a loooong time. I just accepted it and went about my business. I truly was not expecting anything."
This REEKS of gifts LL. You gave her a GREAT gift and it mattered a lot to her. Why was it a great gift? NOT because of the cost, but because:
-- you recognized that it was something she would like really took SEEING HER, THINKING about HER, UNDERSTANDING HER
-- it was NOT ABOUT YOU, NOT ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT (recall the rubber duckies)
-- it was not generic but required genuine thought (compare flowers, candy, which are pretty generic, though they are still nice)
-- it was NOT about getting her what YOU think she should want
-- it was a loving gift given for no other reason than it would please W
-- it was a TRUE gift, given from generosity without a second agenda motivating it.
