Yes - I know that taking my ring off can't be done in an effort to get his attention. I tried that. Everything I have done-----things that I think could have reached him before (when he was sane) have not worked. I may finally be getting it. He is done. There's nothing I can do to change that.
I am trying to live as if he's not coming back to me----because even though in my gut I know this is all wrong-----and I still hope-----I believe that it is true, he's not coming back. I am thankful that he remains devoted to the kids---at least in his own way, but I will admit I am jealous. I hear him tell them he loves them. I know he contacts them often via text and tells them he loves them-----and it makes me jealous. I am jealous of the time he spends with them----not just because I'm alone (without my kids), but because we are not together. I guess I'm beginning to feel like a basket case again.....maybe time to go back on AD's.........
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12