[quote Just after the trauma of the past 2 1/2 years and losing that status as his gf to someone else, its important to me to get M and I feel I deserve him to marry me now! Why doesnt he get that?? I even told him at the weekend I wished we were engaged.. he just pulled a sad face! _________________________ ] [/quote] Ali, just some questions for you-I don't expect you to answer online but for yourself. Firstly maybe the trip home where he had taken Helen-(regardless of whether he wanted to or not) upset your mood. How much of the marriage/ children thing is your own personal body clock and how much of it is a deal breaker in your relationship? Depression takes a long time to overcome and sometimes never goes completely away.You once stated it didn't bother/affect your mood but I am sensing it does-now in the new R.(His depression I mean) Secondly and this is something I have seen time and time again, children do not cement a relationship, they are often the final nail in a rocky relationship.(I am NOT saying your relationship is rocky) just food for thought. Don't let a sense of entitlement for a ring and the happy family senorio undo the progress you are making.(I do understand your frustrations and reasoning though)
Are you willing / happy to stay knowing those things are not on the near horizon and may never be or when you both get to that page,your body says sorry no can do? I guess all the marriage thing was talked about before his leaving and your separation,are his views now different or because of what you endured have your views changed?
No advice, just don't let these feelings fester. This is a huge issue for a woman and certainly one you need answers to,sooner rather than later. Good luck and I am wishing you well,you have done so well and I am hoping this matter gets resolved soon.
