Divorced and want to reconcile...

[dday101798]

Hi mar,

First off, on those "bad days", you're going to have to find a way to either curb those emotions all together (best case but not easy), or more practically, catch yourself before you get yourself in too deep. The last few time XW tried to push me and bait me, I started to go down that road with her, and then caught myself mid thought and said "hey, that's all in the past and is done and over with, no sense in going there anymore". Find your own technique, heck if you have to, spend time in front of the mirror or something and rehearse what to say or do. You'll find your own way on how to deal with it if you want things to continue to progress.

As far my sitch' goes: "the talk" never happened. So, whatever that is/was all about, not my concern. My concern right now is getting through the holidays as best as possible. And since I have the kids on Thursday and christmas day, it won't be anything to out of the ordinary, much like last year, so I already know what to expect and how to get through. I highly doubt my XW and I will be having any talk any time soon. She's in numerous violations of our parenting agreement and now marital settlement agreement and playing games with income taxes that were already settled IN COURT, so she's not the brightest bulb in the box and that's unfortunate, but if XW wants to play games like that, that's fine by me, I have my rear covered in every legal aspect. Otherwise, Xw and OM are apparently not getting along so well ever much these days, probably spurring the notion for this 'talk'. As sai, I'm not plan B.

But again, not my problem. I've been getting out and having fun and dabbling my feet inthe water now and then, even have a "date" on Saturday and am looking forward to having a blast, it's a concert by mine and XW's favorite local band and I've already seen them quite a few times and have gotten over the sting that XW made her choice not to enjoy these good times with me anymore. Too bad, somebody will.