I think folks can sense half hearted gestures. And why would you force yourself to try to make love with someone you find dirty?
I have lots of problems with sex and intimacy. That's why I suggested just looking at him, imagining what your level of interest would be. By watching him just imagine, think of what it might be like. Not the whole shebang. Just bits and pieces. Not to dive in and take one for the team!
Early in our marriage after my former spouse was recovering from a severe bipolar episode he started initiating 2 minute sex. I was accommodating but grew increasingly angry but never said a word. One night he mentioned that I didn't seem very interested during the 15 second foreplay. I spread my legs and growled, "I am a vessel to your sperm!" Oh yeah.. and I might have anger issues, too!
