Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

Hey Sandi, good to hear from you! I appreciate you checking in on me from time to time. Same goes for IWITW and the rest of you fine folks. I don't think there is much to do or say right now as far as my W is concerned- she has made the conscious decision to guzzle as much of her own psychological/emotional Kool-Aid as she can, me, the kids and the rest of our extended family be damned.

It's gotten pretty sleazy and shameless between my W and OM- I won't bore you with the details. What is really sad and pathetic is the volatility of the R between my W and OM. He is apparently actively involved with another woman in his home state-my W is aware of this- and is using my W as an emotional Yo-Yo: one day they love each other, the next day they hate each other. The amount of effort my W is putting into trying to maintain the belief (in her head) that OM is a really good person (when she knows deep down he is a scumbag) and I am a bad person- to justify her love for him- is unbelievable. I don't know how long the sex talk, the promise of more sex and online gifts my W is plying the OM with can sustain this pathetic A/R of theirs and frankly I don't care. I doesn't matter because my W's fallback position remains that life will be wonderful as a single woman without me- despite increasing problems and tension between her and both of my sons.

Anyways, a little update on my sitch: my W has has found a place to move to here in town and is moving out this Friday. She has also been hired for a float/per diem nursing position in a neighboring community. Unfortunately, she doesn't start her new job for a few weeks, but that isn't stopping her from saying the hell with it and moving out now when our savings are almost completely dried up. Completely stupid since there is no guarantee that she will get much shift work- although the recruiter said they would keep her busy. I didn't completely like it because splitting up our remaining savings right now leaves me running close to on fumes financially but my L told me to seize the opportunity to get her out of the house- and everyone in my life who cares about me agreed. So I've given her 50% of our remaining savings and looking forward to having the house all to myself here pretty soon.