My read: she gave signore a second chance, but where's the second chance for SP after x years of marriage and two kids?
I'm guessing that's where the rancor is coming from.
Regardless of where the rancor is, the fact remains that she did give her partner in adultry a second chance...and her husband of 18 years and the father of her children gets no second chance. That's painful, and SP's angst is quite understandable to me.
Therein lies part of the answer to this issue, if any answer is to be had and taken advantage of.
Partner in adultery didn't pursue her, in fact quite the opposite and on top of that, he let her go, she's pursuing him.
Why?
Because he has a 12" johnson rod?
Maybe.
In the eyes of Mrs.SP, does he have higher perceived value than SP?
Yup, probably.
In the eys of Mrs.SP, does she have higher perceived value than SP?
Yup, probably.
Did SP pursue her? Yup
Follow the value, pursue the unattainable.
She pursues Signore, he projects his value as being too high and makes himself unavailable, she's attracted to that value, he's too good for her and he leaves her to get something better.
Doesn't that sound familiar to the situation.
She projects her value as being too high for SP and makes herself unavailable, SP is attracted to her because she has alot of value in his eyes, she's too good for him (as per her opinion) and she leaves him to get something better.
What does SP do? He dates, all of a sudden his value goes up. No one noticed that she had a $hit when she discovered that SP traded up? Follow the value. SP says fine, I'm tired of chasing you, I have value, I don't have to prove it to you, you're a waste of my time and my love and she can't have that, throws off the balance in her mind. The way things were going, they were fine when she was the one with perceived high value. SP gets involved with another woman, Mrs.SP's value drops, all of a sudden she has an issue with things - how could SP do this to our marriage and I'm not going to MC if you're still seeing her.
She's all about the value.
Now something throws me off for a second, SP did you stop seeing that woman you were dating and start pursuing your wife again, is this why the momentum appears to have shifted back to her?
All SP can do at this point is detach. No longer pursuing, no longer replying to emails unless they're of an emergency, no more taking crap from her, no more tolerating her crap behavior, continue being a great person, a great father and continue moving on with your life and no longer worrying about wasting his time or his love on her, invest it into someone else that matters.
And you thought value came into play when shopping for groceries and automobiles ;-)
