Coming up on One-Year of DB'ing...

[mindfull]

So, H is becoming a bit agitated. I noticed this comes and goes in cycles. We were home pretty much all weekend, as outdoor soccer has ended, and I was sick. He makes little cutting comments towards me. Most times I just look at him, and give him this raised eyebrow look... not really allowing it, but not shutting him down either. Just a look that says that wasn't really necessary. He usually gets this way when he's tired, and hasn't slept much. Which he is, and he hasn't...

So, H left @ 6am and went out of town for work. I called him at 7:30ish because S12 thought he might have left his bball shorts in his car. H checked, and called me back saying they weren't there, but remembered he had emptied his car last weekend, and told me where to check at home.

H txts me during S12's bball game, asking the score, and asking for updates a few times during the game.

We call him after the game to give him the overview, talk about a few things, and hang up (< 3 min convo). About an hour ago, I txt'd him to tell him my friend has an appointment w/the Dr he just saw (on Mon). He replies. OK? I reply - She said to tell you that you inspired her to go. (She's had some major digestive issues - was scared.) Then, he calls...

H.... I'm awake now.
Me... OK...?
H... I was trying to take a 50 minute nap, when you txt'd me about your friends health.
Me... I don't know when you sleep, so I wouldn't know if I was waking you up.
H... How does your friend know I went to the Dr?
Me... I told her. She exhibits some of the same symptoms you do (dietary). (INTERJECTION - He's an OUT THERE kind of guy. He is NOT that private. Without mindreading, he's annoyed at something, and looking for a reason..)
H... How did I inspire her, and she has an appointment already?
Me... Just lucky to get in I guess!
Me... H, you sound annoyed... I don't talk to you that much during the day. If it annoys you that I wake you up when I call or txt during the day, it's easy. Let me know if you're going to sleep!!
H... Well, MF, we've talked many times today (2x for a total of five minutes), and txtd at least 15 times (he initiated, wanting status' for most). Couldn't you have told me this earlier? I mean, REALLY, if I don't answer my phone you call and call and call, and then call my friends/family that might know, etc... (This has happened 2x. He didn't answer the phone for hours. He was asleep. He owns a trucking company, and he travels around, schedules change, he's dispatching people, loading people, etc... I could NEVER know what his schedule is. It's worrisome. He could be up to three states away, and if he doesn't answer after hours, it's scary.)
Me... Sure.
H... OK, (sarcasm dripping) For the rest of this week, I'll txt you everytime I go to sleep and wake up.
Me... Ok, that's fine. Then I know.
H... (starts asking me ?'s about S12's bball game again)
Me... (I answer shortly, but politely - but now in tears - not allowing him to hear)


SO ANY RECOMMENDATIONS ON HOW TO HANDLE HIM?

On a normal day, when he's gone, it's about a 50/50 split on who calls who first, and if it's me, unless there's a specific reason, I wait until nighttime, and it's just one conversation.

So, seriously, that can't be much of a complaint.

And, the cutting remarks are hurtful. I'll try to think of examples.

H comes back in our room (I'm still in bed as it's only 6am) to tell me goodbye. He brings a soda can in w/him. H... Oh, here, I'm assuming this is yours. It was on our 300 year old antique clock. (Yes, I put it there - odd, because I am very tidy! However, when I put it there it was empty, and it was dry and not sweating... wasn't hurting anything!) Me... Yes, thanks. Then he talks a bit, says goodbye and leaves.

It's been little sh*t like that all weekend. Agitated kind of speak. Trying to make me feel bad...

Then, on the opposite hand. He's incredibly complimentary of the dinner I make him. We had a blast in the kitchen when he was making his detox tea.... We had a fun family dinner on Sat night.

So, how do I handle him?