@PDT -- you're still not quite latching onto it. Friendiness is NOT friendship. It is not being open to story-telling. It is not sharing of intimate life details. It is not co-sleeping. It is appearing happy; it is pitching-in around the house when pitching-in is needed; it is saying "Good Morning" or "how was work?"; it is going about the daily GAL, 180, job, etc., without calling attention to one's self. It is, in short, putting the best face forward. It is NOT "f*ck you b*tch" and it is NOT "I hate you" and it is NOT "I wish you were dead."
Yes, I rescued; that was as much for me as for her, to prove to myself that I was everything she said I wasn't.
I'm livid because, after the A is over, she wants me to join into her life -- just like her lover. In other words, it isn't enough to DIVORCE me, she wants to ASSIGN me to the category of "men I have f*cked but still get coffee with." Well, that's just not on. I'm happy to be the father of her children; but I'm not going to be one of her "swell Ex's."
I hardly think that's out of proportion. If Mrs. PDT went back to her old ways -- always a possibility, right? -- would you be "the same" angry you were, or would you be "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me" angry?
What irritates me the most, frankly, isn't even that she would have the cojones to ask this of someone -- it's that she renders it a character flaw in me that I find it insulting.
