1) I did not word this correctly. Correct version: My STBXW is clearly not ever coming back and I will be better off without her. I'll admit to once or twice acknowledging the curious (to me) fact that there is a Divorced But Not Done Forum, though.
OK. Got it. No argument from me.
Originally Posted By: Gardener
2)My believing that she will one day awaken to the fact that what she did (bail) was wrong and that she destroyed a lot blended-family-wise does not mean I am "clinging to the hope of reconciliation."
OK, looking back at the original quote it seemed that you were hoping that one day she would realize the error of her ways. When someone does that it means they are still holding some form of hope. Be it hope for apology or reconciliation or whatever. For some reason or other I thought I picked up a trace of resentment as well. Original reads: And I know she will realize one day what she did was wrong. What I was trying to say there was that you were still attached to her by "knowing."
IMHO, judging from what you have shared about her, I believe that this is highly unlikely. Her track record with previous relationships points to this. With that kind of person it's better to distance yourself emotionally, physically and mentally. Their hatred of you will have no bounds. It will consume them to the point that they will even endeavor to poison any new friendships or relationships you will enter into in the future. I hope this explains it a little better.
I will continue the next few points in another post.
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