GIMA,At what point do you go from an honest invitation to pursuing? In some ways I see this invite as an opportunity for H to do some cake eating but on the other hand I would hate for him to miss this milestone. I am stuggling with where to draw the line.
I'd say if you were inviting him over to celebrate your birthday, you'd be pursuing. His daughter's birthday = not pursuing.
Originally Posted By: motherof3
As an example, the day after Thanksgiving, in the past we would go to a tree farm and pick out the family Christmas tree, decorate the tree, the whole nine yards. H has the kids on Thanksgiving day and dropping them off on the day after Thanksgiving. I still plan on keeping up with the tradition and taking them to get the Christmas tree. Would it be okay to extend the invitation to H in this sitch? Or is that one too many invites in the same week?
The day after Thanksgiving, I'd be all ready to go do the tree thing and see if he says anything about it. And ask yourself how you feel about having him along. Would you feel awkward? Happy for the kids? Wishing he were on another continent? To me, D's birthday and Thanksgiving being so close = coincidence and not a "too many invites in the same week." Your call.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
