You're going to have some hot buttons for a while. Your M ended because of an A so someone else giving your BF the eye or in this case, sweet words is going to sting extra hard. Understand that.

You can blame your X and write him a nasty email, after all he did some unkind things but you will heal faster if you try to move past it. "Ex made me like this..." is playing the victim and it won't allow you to heal. "I hate feeling like this so I won't let my Ex define my thoughts and feelings anymore..." is Bluerain in charge.


If your new BF is worth it, he should understand you've gone thru a lot and will still have things you're sensitive about. It doesn't mean carrying around all the baggage of your past but he will need need to understand this is a process that takes some time. You are throwing the bags off the back of the boat one by one.

Last edited by orangedog; 11/24/09 02:27 AM. Reason: changed "and" to "so"
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